Recently one of my girlfriends wrote me an email announcing that in the upcoming months she is going to be moving in with her boyfriend. Although she was extremely excited, she also expressed some anxiety. But instead of being concerned about sharing a bathroom or a closet with him, she was more apprehensive about sharing a kitchen. She wrote, "The only thing I'm a little nervous about is that I think the move will make me fat. I eat really healthy when I'm home alone, but if we're grocery shopping and eating out together all the time I feel like it will be hard to stick to my diet. I mean, will he think it's weird that basically everything I keep in my fridge is low-calorie (cheese, butter, bread - you name it, I've got it!). And what's going to happen when he starts to stock up our fridge with his favorite foods? Between the burgers, beer, and chips I don't know if I'll be able to resist."
Well my friend and fellow nutritionista, you're in luck. Although it may be difficult at first, moving in together doesn't mean you have to move up a pants size. I went to an expert on the subject, Registered Dietitian, Cynthia Sass and got her advice on how to merge your eating habits with your man. Here is what she had to say ...
Cynthia Sass: Your boyfriend or hubby is one of the greatest influences on what, when and how much you eat. Couples eat together more often than they do just about any other activity and when you move in together, things can get a little sticky. You may be lucky enough to have separate closets or bathrooms, but chances are you'll share one kitchen - and when your foods are under the same roof, the potential for weight gain (especially for her) and food-related conflict skyrockets. Here are my tips for avoiding both:
- Have "me," "you" and "us" food spaces. Chances are you and your guy are going to have different food preferences and some of his may be foods you prefer to avoid, from bloody, raw meat that grosses you out to salt and vinegar chips you can't resist diving into. Create separate areas in the fridge, freezer and cupboards for each of your foods and a common area for foods you share. Out of sight, out of mind goes a long way for preventing arguments (e.g. your meat juices dripped on my hummus container!) and temptations (if those chips are the first thing you see when you open the cabinet, chances are you'll be polishing them off). Men and women nearly always separate their bathroom toiletries - doing the same in the kitchen just makes sense.
- Agree to a "no food gifts" policy. Some guys (or gals) grew up with the idea that food = love. Food is a powerful and intimate connector, but bringing each other food favorites as a sign of affection can lead to major poundage and health problems like diabetes and high cholesterol. Tell each other non-food ways you love to be loved. My hubby knows back rubs and hand written notes are at the top of my list.
- Squelch eating as entertainment. After moving in, a lot of couples start going out less in favor of ordering pizzas and Netflix films or grilling at home. Or they start doing less date stuff on the weekends (like going to a concert or comedy club) and more eating stuff like going to brunch. Try to keep your social life active and when you're deciding what to do, make food secondary instead of the main attraction.
- Never "split." Even at the same height, men burn about 20% more calories at rest and because men are typically taller, the calorie divide is usually wider. If a couple splits a pizza or brownie sundae, she's going to wind up in a much greater calorie surplus than he will. Bottom line: men and women's metabolisms are like SUV vs. compact cars. It's best to customize your portion to your body's calorie burning engine. A 60/40 share or separate meals make more sense if you want to avoid "cohabitation weight gain." Click here for more tips on eating healthy while dining out.
- Confront Your Issues Right Away. If you feel a food conflict brewing (you disagree about how to feed your new puppy, you're never hungry at the same time, he pushes food on you after you've said no ... ), talk about it right away. Ignoring it can result in building resentment that affects the quality of your relationship. Bring it up at a quiet time when you can talk it through and use non-accusatory language like, "Can I talk to you about something? I've noticed that ..." instead of, "It really bothers me when you ..."
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Cynthia Sass, MPH, RD, is a Manhattan-based nutritionist in private practice and the creator & co-author of the "Flat Belly Diet." She is also the co-author of the relationship book "Your Diet is Driving Me Crazy: When Food Conflicts Get in the Way of Your Love Life." In addition, Cynthia is a Contributing Editor and Weight Loss Coach columnist for SHAPE Magazine and a Nutrition Consultant for the Philadelphia Phillies. For more information check out her Web site: http://www.cynthiasass.com/.

















